Showing posts with label 60th birthday. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 60th birthday. Show all posts

Saturday, June 21, 2014

My 60th Birthday Surprise!


To my great delight, I was given a wonderful present for my birthday onJune 4th.  My wife had arranged for us to spend about 24 hours in Salt Lake City, and while there, we would have a party at ou, just east of downtown, with friends and family.

We woke up early on the 4th and flew out of Bob Hope Airport in Burbank.  Upon arrival, we were picked up by my wonderful sister-in-law, Janeen.  On our way to her home, we stopped by a Davis family favorite, Crown Burger, to buy and take with us some of their delicious specialty: the Crown Burger--a burger with pastrami.  Yum! 

We sat around their table and savored this delight along with some onion rings, and had a lively discussion about my recent blog posting.  We were then given the keys to Janeen's car, and left to embark on an excursion to the Westside, the area where I grew up, in honor of this my 60th birthday.

Because we had to pick something up downtown, I decided that we would start by visiting nearby West High School, my alma mater, that looked to be closed for summer recess.
It really looks in good shape.  There are buildings on its campus that are new, and from what I have heard, it is one of the leading high schools in the Salt Lake Valley.  I attended West between 1968 and 1971.  It was a memorable time of my life; a time of learning but also a time of socially evolving.  It was where I began dating, where my singing prowess began, where I began learning about myself.
Looking down on West and the area where I grew up on westside of Salt Lake City is Ensign Peak, shown here from the West Campus.  I hiked it a number of times, exploring it and ultimately summiting it.  It looks over the State Capitol building, which I would visit after summiting the Peak.  The Peak seemed so imposing in my memory, but in reality, it is rather modest, and now not far from homes.

A little over a mile west of West, on the other side of the railroad tracks, we drove by the location of my maternal grandfather's grocery store and meat market.  It was also where his family lived and where my mother was raised.  When I attended Jackson Junion High, a mere 200 yards from this structure, I would sometimes park my bike behind it, because at the time my sister and her new family lived in the little apartment adjacent to the store/residence.

Throughout my life, my mother would tell stories of her upbringing there with her 10 siblings.   It is located at the corner of 800 West and 300 North.  It lookes to be in decent shape for being as old as it is.  To me, it's

interesting that as buildings age, and others occupy them, the lives, the history, the stories of those who have occupied them are inevitably lost, hidden in the walls. But if walls could speak, particularly these walls, what stories they could tell!

We drove around that area, looking at the empty lot of where a home stood, the home to where I was brought from Holy Cross Hospital where I was born.  We looked at where Jackson Junior High, my junior high, once stood.  It likewise is gone, existing only in my memory.  We looked at the old 28th Ward building, which I was told was now a sober living residence and where a great-nephew of mine currently resides.  We looked at the home of my childhood friend, Richard Jacobsen, where I spent hours playing after school on my way home.

About a quarter mile, some three blocks from where my mother was raised, we parked the car and walked around the immediate area near my childhood home.  How small everything seemed!  The streets, the homes, the alley way, everything, had been so signficant, so large, in my memory. But I was small at the time, and now being of adult stature, everything is so small, so modest.  

We walked around, ultimately heading toward my childhood home built in 1953.  Its current occupants have lived there longer than I did, and they have kept it up and have made changes to suit them (like the fence in front).  Within the walls of this very modest brick home, my early life took place, and those memories are abundant and remarkable.  So many stories.  So many feelings.  So many hearts.
Returning to our car, we drove around other structures in the neighborhood.  My mind and heart were flooded with all of the stories and the images of bygone years.

One building in my neighborhood in which I spent countless hours and which is likewise filled with so many stories, is my church buidling. For within its walls, I first came to know my Savior, Jesus Christ. and was loved by good, salt-of the-earth people.  Now vacant it looks forlorn and overgrown by weeds and trees which are in need of trimming, with wood-covered windows.  What occured inside the walls will forever exist vibrantly in my memory.  The building will not be shabby,  but new and fresh and well-kept.  


After driving around the neighborhood and looking for scenes and evidences of my early years, we headed east toward Salt Lake Cemetary. I wanted and needed to pay respect and to honor the burial site of my parents.  Near them, a number of aunts and uncles are buried.  It is always a solemn time for me to visit a cemetary, but as I stood looking down at my parents' headstone, I once again realized that it was only where their bones lie.  Who they were, their essence or spirit, is not entombed there but exists in heavenly realms.  I believe that they continue existing there, that they are free from the shackles of mortality. I believe that they have perfect knowledge of their past and present existence.  I believe that whereever they are, they are concerned about me and love me dearly yet.
The cemetary is not far from Emigration Canyon.  So we jumped in the car and headed east toward the mountains.  Driving up the canyon I've drive so many times, we arrived at the cabin where I was greeted by a wonderful sign that my caring, loving brother had put up in my honor.  
Soon, family and friends arrived for the cookout and gathering.  It was just wonderful to see these important people in my life.  I am grateful for their love and care.  It was truly a blessing to be able to spend my 60th birthday with these beloved people.  Thank you, my sweet wife, for being so thoughtful, so caring, so loving.







Saturday, May 24, 2014

I'm Almost 60?


I am fast approaching my 60th birthday on June 4th.  I am not sure how I will feel about this event.  I write on this blog not only as an historical document, but also as a way to process. I am sure someone will surely ask, "how does it feel to be 60?"  I will likely ask for clarification.  In what regard? Physically? Emotionally? That I am ready for the bone heap?


 I remember thinking in the distant past that 60 was the onset of "old age."  On one hand, when my parents were 60, they did seem old and were really seeming to slow down.  I had just gotten married and had given them the first of my contributions to their bulging grandchildren pool.  They seemed old like grandparents should seem.
On the other hand, my brother and sister whizzed past 60 and seemed full of energy and full of life.  My sis and her husband are well into their 70s and my bro and sister-in-law are approaching their 80s, and while they are finally starting to slow down, they're not slowing down very much.  They seem to be my most reliable indicators of what it is like to be aging gracefully and with much energy and gusto.
Physically, I will admit to occasionally waking up with some aches and pains (my back sure is stiff this morning).  I will admit to experiencing deteriorating eyesight and hearing (what?).  I will admit to lapses in memory at times (why did I come into this room?). I will admit to saggy flesh and less than toned body parts (Davis jowls).  I will admit to poorer handwriting (my hand starts hurting quickly).  I will admit to not needing as much sleep (who needs 8 hours?).  I will admit that my singing voice has more vibrato to it (the red-headed California warbler).  I will also admit to not as much neediness, if you know what I mean.
But I can still hike strongly and with vigor.  I can walk and run as much as I want to.  I still have all of my teeth and a thick head of red hair.  I can move furniture and boxes and work in the garden as well as I ever have.  Dancing with my sweetheart is no problem.  And I can borrow a lyric from the Broadway musical 1776. 
Emotionally I feel that I understand myself and the world around me moreso now than I ever have.  I feel that I have worked long and hard on eliminating my unresolved childhood issues, and I am experiencing great benefits as a result.  I feel that I have been learning from life experiences and am harvesting the lessons.  I feel much wiser than I did just a few years ago (whether I am actually wiser is arguable).  I feel more contented than I have ever felt.

I still feel emotinally like a child at times, and if you were to ask my wife, she might tell you that I sometimes act like one.  I have no problem interacting with my six grandchildren in person or on Skype, or being as silly as they can be.  Why I still retain many memories from my childhood!

It feels odd to admit to myself that I am on the cusp of retirement.  There are people my age who do not work for a living anymore.  It still seems at times like I am talking about someone else, someone much older, as I discuss retirement issues with our financial advisor.  At this moment, I don't see me working indefinitely.  Heck, I have been working since my first job at age 14.  I see myself working if I want, perhaps easing into retirement, but staying physically and intellectually active.  I see me being able to retire fairly comfortably from a financial point of view, barring unforseen negative circumstances.

 I will admit that having three of my four children in their 30s does make me feel old.  Never mind that I am a grandpa six times over.  It just seems like I was in my 30s, like it was just a few years back.  Where did the time go?
So how does it feel to be 60 years old?  A mixed bag, I suppose.  I am very excited about my future.  I have so much more of life to live, so many experiences to have, so many people and places I want to know, and I hope God grants me many more years.  I don't feel young, but I don't feel old!